Restority Space
Online Therapy for First-Born Daughters in NY & NJ
Specialized Psychotherapy for Trauma, Anxiety, & Managing Relationships.
You’ve Spent Your Whole Life Holding It Together—But at What Cost?
You’re the responsible one—the planner, the problem-solver, the one who keeps everything running smoothly. But under the surface, you feel exhausted, anxious, and disconnected. Somewhere along the way, you learned that being strong meant doing everything alone.
We offer psychotherapy designed specifically for first-born daughters who are ready to break free from the pressure, high expectations, and emotional burnout.
Who is a First-Born Daughter?
Understanding Birth Order & Relationships
A first-born daughter isn’t always the eldest child—she’s the one who grew up feeling responsible for everyone else.
You were the "little adult" in your family—managing emotions, responsibilities, and expectations before you had a choice.
You set the standard. The rules were strict for you, but looser for younger siblings—especially if they were boys.
You learned to be self-sufficient. Asking for help wasn’t an option—you figured things out on your own.
You’ve carried these patterns into adulthood, where they now show up in your work, relationships, and sense of self. You’re highly capable—but you’re also tired.
It’s Time to Focus on You
We help high-achieving women like you heal from trauma, manage anxiety, and build healthier relationships—without feeling guilty.
You Don’t Need to Work Harder. You Need a Different Approach.
If you’ve ever thought:
Why do I feel so stuck, even though I’m doing everything “right”?
Why am I always the one fixing things—at work, in my family, in my relationships?
Why is it so hard to trust people?
You’re not alone. These struggles aren’t random—they’re deeply connected to your birth order and life experiences.
We help you:
Understand the impact of birth order and relationships on your self-worth and decision-making.
Unpack and challenge perfectionism, anxiety, and toxic independence.
Build relationships that actually support you—instead of draining you.
Our Approach:
Online Therapy That Goes Beyond Symptoms
Most therapy focuses on symptoms—we focus on the full picture:
🟠 Family & Birth Order: You were the cycle breaker—but no one else in your family is doing the work. We help you set boundaries and stop carrying everyone else’s emotional weight.
🟠 Work & Burnout: You’re one of the most competent people in the room—but you feel undervalued, overworked, and stuck in high-pressure environments. We help you redefine success on your terms.
🟠 Relationships & Trust Issues: You hold people to high standards because you hold yourself to them. But when they let you down, you feel disappointed, resentful, and emotionally distant. Therapy helps you build healthier, more fulfilling connections.
This Isn’t About “Self-Care.” It’s About Real Change.
Therapy Designed for High Achieving Women who need more than to just “talk it out”.
You’re busy, pragmatic, and used to being in control. You want therapy that’s structured, solution-focused, and goal-driven.
We offer online therapy for anxiety, trauma, and relationships, helping you:
Navigate strained relationships, trust issues, and self-doubt.
Break the cycle of over-functioning and emotional exhaustion.
Build confidence in decision-making—without second-guessing yourself.
Our approach is evidence-based, time-efficient, and results-driven. This isn’t just about talking through your struggles—it’s about giving you the tools to change them.
Our Services
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Individual Therapy
one on one 50 minute virtual sessions to address a variety of concerns
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Trauma Therapy
13-16 structured sessions aimed at decreasing shame, guilt, anxiety and depression associated with traumatic experiences
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Group Therapy
Build community in a therapeutic space where members heal together
This is a celebratory and affirming space for the LGBTQIA+ Community
Meet Fanny
Trauma Therapist for High-Achieving Women
Fanny Tristan, LCSW-R, is a licensed clinical social worker with over 15 years of experience, specializing in trauma-focused psychotherapy and founder of Restority Space
As an AfroLatina immigrant and a first-born daughter herself, she understands the weight of being the first—the first to succeed, the first to break cycles, the first to carry the family’s unspoken expectations.
At Restority Space, she helps high-achieving, perfectionist women challenge unrealistic expectations, set boundaries without guilt, and build trust in relationships without over-functioning.
Your challenges require more than venting. You need a strategy.
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Therapy That Puts You Back in Control
If you’ve spent your life managing everyone else, it’s time to focus on you. We provide online therapy for women who are ready to stop feeling stuck, exhausted, and undervalued.
✔ You don’t have to be the strong one all the time.
✔ You don’t have to keep over-functioning just to feel valued.
✔ You don’t have to stay stuck.
